Post by ~Z~ on Nov 2, 2006 19:51:13 GMT -5
Redswine and Pink Dancer:
I don't think that you are being "follish" by leaving it in God's hands. It's not foolish. but I do think that you at least need to know for sure that you are financially able to support each other, the current children, and the new ones, if they came along. Again - it's really up to the both of you (thanks for the back-up, Raks!) but I would at least recommend that if the both of you have no timeline laid out, but you know that right now you don't want to add anything extra to the family, then I would use protection. You have to think - will there be extra rooms in the house needed? The extra cost for food? Diapers? Doctors? Education? An additional 18 years to care for someone else? The age of both of you? As much as I hate money, I know it is a big part of life - and especially should play some part in your decision-making. Remember free-will? Yes, we can leave things to God. By all means, children belong to Him, ultimately. But I honestly believe that in this time era - that there are choices to be made, and more reason to put yourself into the decision-making process, too. Of course, if God happens to bless you both with a child - obviously a form of providing will come about.
If it was me, I would plan financially, use protection and lay out a "potential" timeline. Start putting aside funds now. I am one of those idealists who knows how I want to have things done, and would rather plan way ahead. I am more of an idealist, more than a realist. That's a downfall of mine. But that helps me, somehow or other, to step back from any situation, as I continue to get older and learn more about any and everything.
I don't think that you are being "follish" by leaving it in God's hands. It's not foolish. but I do think that you at least need to know for sure that you are financially able to support each other, the current children, and the new ones, if they came along. Again - it's really up to the both of you (thanks for the back-up, Raks!) but I would at least recommend that if the both of you have no timeline laid out, but you know that right now you don't want to add anything extra to the family, then I would use protection. You have to think - will there be extra rooms in the house needed? The extra cost for food? Diapers? Doctors? Education? An additional 18 years to care for someone else? The age of both of you? As much as I hate money, I know it is a big part of life - and especially should play some part in your decision-making. Remember free-will? Yes, we can leave things to God. By all means, children belong to Him, ultimately. But I honestly believe that in this time era - that there are choices to be made, and more reason to put yourself into the decision-making process, too. Of course, if God happens to bless you both with a child - obviously a form of providing will come about.
If it was me, I would plan financially, use protection and lay out a "potential" timeline. Start putting aside funds now. I am one of those idealists who knows how I want to have things done, and would rather plan way ahead. I am more of an idealist, more than a realist. That's a downfall of mine. But that helps me, somehow or other, to step back from any situation, as I continue to get older and learn more about any and everything.